i know that i haven’t made a personal post in a while, but i’m desperate and out of options. i am very scared.
there’s a person in my home that, two days ago, kept threatening me with violence. i’m 5′2 and he’s … much bigger and taller. he almost threw glass at me, at one point he pulled out a weapon on me because i took my mom’s room (that she offered) and he threatened to pay someone to beat me up
i can’t do this anymore. before i had the option of a gofundme or a youcaring or sharing my cash.me link i had a whole suicide note drawn up, but something in me told me to do this so i’m going for it and i really hope it works out because otherwise, i have no other options and i CANNOT do it for much longer.
i’ve been locked in my room for days. i only leave to drink water or go to the bathroom. i don’t even eat because he occupies the living room and i’d have to pass him to get to the kitchen, which is what pissed him off enough to send him on a rant threatening to end my life. nobody in my family likes the cops (for obvious reasons) and i need my laptop as that’s really one of the few material posessions i have and need for school.
my last meal was yesterday because my sister bought me food, but idk when i can be able to eat again and i’m scared because i haven’t been downstairs eating regularly since may and i’ve lost probably 20+ pounds
i need $900. I have $95. So, a little over 10% of the way there, but still not enough. i’d hope to get it by the end of this month, but as soon as possible. $900 would go towards the deposit and rent of an apartment i’d share with 2 friends, plus any other utility or moving costs. my scholarship and my job that starts August 6th will pay off the rest in august but i have to leave asap because i can’t do this much longer.
i have a youcaring link (takes paypal) and a gofundme link (takes 5% of all donations) that, if you ask for, i can pm to you to donate (because it does contain personal information, please only ask for it if you know you’re going to donate and you can’t pay with a card (i understand.)
otherwise, i’m content with the cash.me
if you can’t donate, please, i’m begging you to reblog because i don’t know what to do anymore. usually i draw and offer commissions but my mental health is completely shot and i can’t… do anything.
if you donate, i do believe in positive energy and i’ll find a way to pay it back + pay it forward because it warms me how much people have helped me so far.
i wouldn’t do this if i didn’t think it was absolutely necessary. my heart is breaking at the fact that i would ever have to do this.
i would rather sleep on a floor with boxes in an empty room than sleep in the same house as a person who’d rather risk throwing his life and son away because he hates me that much. thank you so much.
thank you so much for helping me you guys, i’m honestly starting to cry because i didn’t think i’d get so much help so soon. I’ve already gotten $45 within an hour. Oh my gooood thank you sooo much.
i also tried to tag it appropriately so hopefully i didn’t miss anything. thank you again.
Hello! I want to say I’m so happy to have participated in this year’s Trans Day Of Visibility, and I would really need some help. My entire life my mom has been psychologically and emotionally abusive, but just recently she has started becoming physical. I think she’s starting to find out I’m trans and I am scared for my life, I didn’t think she was capable of hurting me physically but I guess I was wrong.
I am mentally ill, trans and only 18. I need the money to move in with my boyfriend, my paypal is: https://www.paypal.me/linkle ; please, don’t call me by the name shown there— it’s my dead name. Please call me Link. if you can’t donate, please reblog. I’m so grateful for everything and all I want to do is be myself and be safe. Thank you so so so so SO much for your help.
I’m sorry this post is short and all I just… i don’t know what else to say. I just need help please.
my mom beat me yesterday because of some dumb yaoi that popped up on my dash and i hadn’t closed it. Please help me holy shit if she’s willing to push me against the wall and choke me because of two male characters holding hands I don’t know what she’s more capable of doing okay please fucking help me
listen if i was harry james potter i would have literally had my “”“"emo episode”“”“ in the first fucking book after being forced to live in an abusive home for ten years because the most powerful wizard of all time killed my parents and was out to kill me specifically but instead my teenaged son, harry james, goes through FIVE YEARS of traumatizing experiences and suffers people discrediting and silencing him at every turn before justifiably reaching his breaking point after watching his father figure die and you all have the nerve to call him “whiny”
if your girlfriend fucking bans you from talking to certain people; that is a controlling relationship, it’s not healthy, that’s abusive behaviour. if she doesn’t let you have friends who are women, that isn’t right, that’s not normal. if she’s so controlling that it’s getting in the way of you enjoying a social life, that is a big problem.
i keep seeing people reblogging this and writing in the post or in the tags that one exception is when she bans you from talking to your exes, and i want to say that no that is not fucking okay either
nobody has the authority to order you to not interact with your friends, whether they’re your ex or not. that is not alright.
To clarify: your partner saying “hey, it makes me really uncomfortable when you talk to x for xyz reasons,” and having a DISCUSSION about it (even if that conversation ends with you deciding to not talk to x anymore) is fine and good and healthy. Your partner saying “hey, it makes me really uncomfortable when you talk to x for xyz reasons, so you can’t talk to them anymore if you love me” is shitty and abusive and not okay ever.
ok so reasons why you should remember that kevin day is more than exy and drinking himself to death with vodka take notes
um?? he suffered years of trauma and abuse and has anxiety attacks which is WHY he feels he needs the vodka
he loves history so much that he actually wanted to open up to his team about it and then his team told him to shut up about it so kevin felt bad and never talked about that passion of his ever again like :)) im bitter as fuck
he literally hates the music at eden’s twilight, but tolerates it for andrew. like!! my boy loves classical music!! but he goes where his friends ask him to go and doesnt complain about the music probably because he knows how he feels to have someone shit on something he loves and doesnt want to do that to others :)))
my boy didnt even drink before he met the monsters so consider that as well like :) anyway im emotional about that
he loves the color red so much even though it doesnt look good on him like he probably doesnt care and i just love it??
suffered under the weight of knowing he had a father, and just did not know how to reach out? imagine the fucking pain of dealing with that!!! and how he learns to reach out, and how he makes an effort to have a relationship with him. kevin actually finds the time to be happy with wymack!! a concept!!
also kevin day is desperate for friendship dont tell me otherwise and i bet after the trilogy he and nicky become a lot closer now that andrew has neil and theyre kind of separate from the rest of the group. kevin craves affection
remember everyone’s favourite headcanon about neil coming back to life once upon a time and telling his unsuspecting friends about it on movie night?? I wrote that bitch!!!
The light from the TV seizes every time a scene leaps off a building or the action crashes into the protagonist. It’s exhausting to be in the same room as the flicker of it; the pulsing gunfire and longwinded monologues intercut with showy violence that’s all soft in the middle.
The combat is slow — it’s obvious the director wants you to follow the stunt double’s prowess with your eyes, to take the moment that someone goes sprawling and package it, understand it, delight in your own understanding. The urgency of the fight whimpers and dies. It’s a half-time waltz set to galloping music, stilted dialogue fed into it all like splinters.
It’s almost a comedy, this palatable brutality playing out in a room full of fighters.
A woman hooks her leg in the window of a moving car and slides inside, and Neil makes a tsk-ing noise. She grapples with a driver and wins impossibly. The scene shifts and becomes a greyscale basement; the villain orders his cronies about in German that can’t figure itself out. Neil nudges Andrew’s foot with his and Andrew nods without looking.
The screen hiccups, abruptly paused. “What is it Lassie?” Matt jokes, mouth twitching. “Something wrong?”
“No,” Neil says, sour. “Just wondering if his German coach spoke any German.”
“I thought it was cute,” Nicky says.
“You think he’s cute,” Allison corrects, reaching over Renee to steal a twizzler from the knot of opened snacks on the coffee table. She bites into it viciously when she says, “you’re into boys who can’t speak the same language as you. They’re easier to trick.”
“Wow,” Nicky says, bewildered. “The bitch is out today.”
Allison swipes primly at her lipstick. “Always is.”
“You got another horrifying factoid to share with the class, Josten?” Dan asks. “Something about the proper technique for jumping between cars maybe?”
“Yeah. Don’t lead with your legs. That’s a good way to get yourself ripped in half.”
“Un-pause,” Renee prods, and Matt laughs when he hits play. The movie skids around and tries to find its own plot again. Light flickers over Neil’s frown.
The protagonist shoots at a tank until it blows up, and Neil snorts, jostling Andrew’s side when he stands up. He watches Matt and Neil have a conversation in gestures, and Matt relents after a moment, letting Neil slip away without pausing anything.
He’s gone for a while. Doubtless somewhere in their bedroom or breathing secondhand smoke from his own hand or killing time cross-legged in the brightness of the kitchen.
It’s less bearable, trying to swallow the movie without Neil shaking with laughter against him every time someone lies or shoots the wrong way. Andrew feels uncomfortably like the only other person in his lifeboat had just been rescued without him.
Another explosion rocks their sound system, and Andrew flicks bored eyes back to the villain circling the lead in a helicopter. He’s still waiting for the plot twist to get over itself and make an appearance, or for Neil to do the same. It’s starting to chafe, being in the dark with the whole team, shifting and breathing and rustling plastic packages around him.
The protagonist gets suddenly skewered by the debris from the helicopter he just shot down, and the heroine tumbles down over the rubble, scrambling to hold his face in both hands. Dialogue devolves into blood-bubbling I love you’s and come back’s from there, and Andrew concentrates on zoning out.
“He’s not actually dead,” Nicky says incredulously, mouth full of popcorn. Dan shushes him. “He’s too pretty to be impaled to death.”
“I bet you want him to impale you to death,” Matt says slyly, pleased with himself, and Renee frowns at him.
“Ay, he’s back!” Nicky says, popping another handful as the protagonist gasps back to life, face wet with tears or sweat or rain. “What’d I tell you?”
“You’re ruining this movie,” Aaron says flatly.
“Do you think he went to heaven for those five minutes?” Nicky continues, ignoring his cousin. “Like I get that he’s a mass murderer, but it was all ‘greater good’ stuff. Like charity work.”
“I don’t think God had time to decide,” Renee says softly.
“Like he was hanging out in limbo?” Dan asks, playing along. Renee shrugs generously.
“I’d love to die for like ten minutes, make a scene, have Erik weep over my broken body. Then high five God on my way back to life.”
“Nothing happens when you die, Nicky,” Neil says matter-of-factly from the doorway. He smells like Andrew’s cigarettes when he climbs back onto the couch, legs tucked underneath him. He reaches for a handful of popcorn.
“You can’t know that for sure,” Renee says, frowning a little. Her beliefs never show on her face so much as when she’s trying to fight back without fighting.
Andrew can feel his heart wind up and get ready to throw something, though he’s not completely sure why until Neil says, “I died once.” He shrugs. “God looked a whole lot like an endless abyss.”
look, with mother’s day coming up, I feel the need to remind people that there are people out there who
don’t get along with their mothers,
don’t think their mothers are beautiful,
don’t want anything to do with their mothers
and guilt tripping them in any way, or shaming them for not buying gifts/flowers/etc… is ignorant asshole behavior, and is v detrimental to someone’s mental stability surrounding any abuse they received from their mother.
When Natives have been erased and objectified to the point that narratives to work in favor of the colonizer become “aesthetics”. I received alot of backlash for a previous post I made about Pocahontas that was a screen cap of a tweet about Pocahontas being raped and thinking of that everytime i see romanticized depictions or sexualized Pocahontas costumes. Ultimately I never claim to be a historian or to take agency away from Matoaka by reducing her to a victim narrative. And despite claims there is some “political motive” I think its more harmful for Indigenous women not to call out hypersexualized depictions, or ignore that sexual violence took/takes place. (Especially given the high rates of violenceIndigenous face) To ignore the dynamic of erasure taking place when we reduce Pocahontas to an “aesthetic/vibe” or Disney character and completely omit that history, contributes to the overall struggles that Native and Indigenous women face. To ignore that is also to downplay the history of genocide and violence that this country was founded upon, and just as statistics prove, history forgotten will continue, or repeat itself.
Regardless, I feel that Non Natives are reducing her by appropriating her identity and erasing the complexities of her life. By erasing her true life story that takes away any sense of resistance that she may have demonstrated, because people will never see her for who she was if they only want to see her as a Disney character.
Notice how the one post also includes the word “savage” which has historically been a slur against Native peoples and specifically paired to justify sexual violence towards Indigenous women. Not only does the use of this slur contribute to violence but it also speaks to the OP’s perception of Native people that they think this would be appropriate. Now when it comes to intent of these post I also keep seeing the frequent response that “its just Disney!” As if that exempts any dynamic of imperialism/colonialism. I have written about Disney in the past about their racist depictions of POC and Indigenous peoples. Knowing that, as well as the ways cartoons have historically been used for racism and war propaganda, the excuse that its a children’s movie does not exempt all criticisms. If you want to learn how to honor Pocahontas read about the history from her own Tribe http://www.powhatan.org/pocc.html and talk to them about accurately representing her. In the meantime do not reduce her to an aesthetic or character and silence Natives who tell you its wrong. Do not weaponize a film that has been criticized as problematic and take away any potential it may have for those Natives who choose to reclaim it. (Thats for Native women to decide on how they feel, not for Non Natives to tone police and dictate) *For those that claim Native they will be accountable from Tribal communities if they are using their claim to justify hypersexualization or appropriation of culture through Pocahontas. So the excuse “but im part Native!” isnt a exemption pass either*
And finally those who want to ignore the implications of Kourtney’s tweet with rhetoric that “its just ___” they are pretending that sexual violence, Genocide and the history of Kardashian family appropriating from other cultures, happens in a vacuum. Its been proven time and time again that they have an obsessionwith exploiting Native culture and Black culture. Its time to stop treating everything like a media stunt and examining the larger picture that these behaviors represent. They are complicit but also a mirror of US society, corporate interest, and popular media. While I despise feeding into any attention the Kardashians receive by addressing these acts of cultural imperialism I also recognize that other Non Natives will imitate them anyway and thats not a norm that I want encouraged without criticism.
hey y’all i know it’s easter and everything but im really trying to get away from my abusive mother, she is verbally abusive and physically abusive at times. i’m trying to get some money together so i can stay with another family member for the time being, but if you can please donate to my paypal paypal.me/kaijg! anything helps, please reblog if you cant donate
So I am about to massively air my dirty laundry…in the next two weeks I will be travelling front Vancouver (YVR) to Ottawa (YOW) to press charges against my ex boyfriend.
We dated for five years off and on whilst I was struggling with health problems. These issues caused me to not trust my own judgement and instead I relied on him. I made excuses for him, defended his actions, believed him when he gaslit me. And when I finally left him after he assaulted me too severely for me to let it go, he started stalking me. We broke up in June 2015.
Over the next almost two years, he proceeded to stalk and harass me. Despite me moving several 100 km away from him, he just kept showing up. Every encounter would leave me anxious and triggered. All of this culminated in him attacking me on my university campus in January, and then following me to Japan on January 21 where I was part of an archaeological dig. Having him follow me to an entire other country was the push I needed to file charges.
Now comes the embarrassing part, I was told when I came forward that my legal counsel and travel to Ottawa would all be provided for or covered by the local charities. When I got an email this morning asking if I had purchased my round trip plane ticket I cried.
A round trip flight from YVR to YOW for the weekend is $1427, and I can not afford that so last minute. I am now forced to air my laundry to strangers in an attempt to finally escape my abuser. I don’t expect the internet to cover even close to half of it, and I am trying to get my friends and family to help, but any aid would be truly appreciated.
general opinion:fall in a hole and die | don’t like them | eh | they’re fine I guess | like them! | love them | actual love of my life hotness level:get away from me | meh | neutral | theoretically hot but not my type | pretty hot | gorgeous! | 10/10 would bang hogwarts house: gryffindor | slytherin | ravenclaw | hufflepuff best quality: keeps creating elaborate plans that fail horribly and ultimately lead to his public humiliation and arrest in front of everyone he knows :) worst quality: emotional abuser, tried to kill his own son, had his wife committed, manipulated and tried to kill a bunch of teenagers, planned to use one of them for his own political and economic gain, kidnapped another and kept her old locked up and threatened to break her legs just to use her as leverage, had his son horribly beaten, made wylan feel like a failure for years because of one thing he couldn’t do, i fucking hate jan van eck, ship them with: a slow and painful death brotp them with: the worst cell in hellgate needs to stay away from: WYLAN, INEJ, kaz, matthias, nina, jesper, kuwei, MARYA, alys, every decent person he’s ever come into contact with, misc. thoughts: i hate jan van eck SO MUCH there will never be a better scene than when he gets systematically exposed as the slimy lying manipulative cruel human turd that he is and i hope he rots in prison for the rest of his miserable pathetic life, he is the actual Worst person and every time i think about how wylan had to live with him for years and hear about how he was a failure, how he’d never be good enough, how he was stupid and should be sent away where everyone can forget van eck had a son in the first place i want to PUNCH SOMETHING he had such a gift of a son and put him through that for years, he had his wife COMMITTED just so he could divorce her and remarry, not only that but so he could remarry a girl not much older than his son who’s clearly never had to think for herself in her whole life and would go along with anything he wanted, he sent a bunch of TEENAGERS into the world’s deadliest prison to retrieve yul-bayur despite knowing they would most likely ALL DIE and when they came back and said “yeah we don’t have yul-bayur but here’s his 15 yr old son” van eck was just like “oh great another scared young person i can use for my own gain hand him over” AND THEN ALL THAT SHIT HE SAID ABOUT WYLAN AND AS IF THAT’S NOT ENOUGH HE THEN HAD INEJ KIDNAPPED AND KEPT HER HIDDEN AND THREATENED HER AND MADE HER THINK NOBODY WAS COMING AND SHE WAS COMPLETELY ALONE fucking hell do i hate jan van eck. so much. so goddamn much
you know what kills me? gets my goat? rubs me the wrong way? kicks me in the pants? the fact that jk rowling spent seven books showing how harry james potter was kind and brilliant and funny and brave and clever and powerful and intelligent and yet people still call him a moron because as a child he was forced to base his decisions off of limited information and an arsenal of subnormal social skills learned from a decade of abuse
Stop abusing your boyfriends and yes what you are doing is abuse.
Stop:
Yelling at him in front of his friends
Hitting or slapping him when he does or says something you don’t like
Telling him he doesn’t have a choice when it comes to decisions that involve both of you
Telling him he can’t hang out with friends because you don’t like him
Telling him to not talk to other girls even if they are his friend
Forcing him to spend every moment with you
Belittling him and pointing out all his flaws
Calling him stupid or making fun of him for making a mistake
Threatening to break up with him if he doesn’t do what you want
Being emotionally manipulative and crying until he does what you want
Accusing him of cheating every time he’s not with you
Blow up is phone if he doesn’t text you every five minutes
Telling him you are the must thing that has ever happened to him and no one else will love
Physically attacking him when ever you are mad
Forcing him to have sex despite that fact that he said he didn’t want to
Invading his privacy by going through his phone
Getting mad at him for changing his password and demanding he tell you what it is
If a guy did any of these things to a girl it would be considered abuse but since its the other way around its considered normal. Throughout High school I saw many girl treating their boyfriends like shit. Sometime even physically abusing them in the hallways and no one trying to stop it because its a girl attacking a boy.
Boys: If your girlfriend does anything on this list leave her. It is abuse and you deserve better.
Girls: if you find your self doing anything on this list to your boyfriend you need to knock it off because you are being abusive.
!!!!!!!!
My brother was abused by his babies mom and it started like this and escalated to child abuse and neglect.
You don’t deserve to be screamed at, ignored, or assaulted.
Not showing affection when she wants or not hugging her before class) or missing a phone call doesn’t warrant getting cussed out or hit.
Lol, I lost 5 followers from reblogging this. That’s fine, y'all can go
Whole lot of grown women do this too.
Just wanna throw these in too
Being passive aggressive with him when he wants to spend time with friends or doing other things
controlling when he’s able to go out with friends
Breaking up his friendships with other girls just because you’re insecure
Making him feel like his opinions in decisions that affect the both of you are irrelevant and don’t matter
testing him in anyway in general without his knowledge or permission (example: catfishing! it’s manipulative and weird don’t fucking do that)
taking money/credit cards without permission to spend on things without his knowledge ( had an ex friend do this constantly to her boyfriend and she’d always condone it because “he’ll get over it” )
guilting him for hanging out with friends/family over you and making him choose between you and friends/family
telling him “you don’t love me if you *insert harmless activity he wants to do here* “
being rude or mean to him in front of others to assert dominance or power over him
downloading apps to spy on his phone activity (yes, this is a thing “”regular”” people do) or snooping on his social media to see who he’s talking to
hitting him, slapping him, punching him, shoving him. literally how do people not understand slapping your male partner is bad. people tend to find this funny in media and society and its weird. KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF YOUR PARTNER WITHOUT PERMISSION.
I come from a family of very forward and manipulative women and i see it in media all the time. it’s fucked and people need to not be accepting of young girls acting like snot-nosed, abusive shit heads that think they can get away with manipulation and cruelty because they happen to be girls.
and let me add this. ABUSIVE TEEN GIRLFRIENDS TURN INTO ABUSIVE GROWN ASS WOMEN GIRLFRIENDS WHO TURN INTO ABUSIVE WIVES.
if you have an abusive teen or young adult gf right now fellas, leave. don’t let her use you to get her shit right. you’ll be so fucked up by the time she gets it together if she ever does and believe that most likely she won’t.
Can i just add that ive seen young queer girls do this to their girlfriends. Girls can be abusers and you are right to leave.
Women/young girls can definitely be just as abusive. I knew a young man that got ran over and had his leg broken by his girlfriend because (in her words he annoyed her) He refused to press charges.
Another young lady started to hit her ex boyfriend because he wouldn’t take her back because of the abuse. He called the cops on her and they literally started laughing at him because she was very petite in comparison to him. Anyone can be abusive and I wish more people understood that.
one more thing: -going through their phone without their permission how the fuck do people think this is okay
Imagine twelve year old Harry not even knowing how awful his childhood with Dursleys had been until he gets to the Burrow.
Imagine him seeing Percy asleep with a book on his lap, and being baffled that a kid might feel comfortable enough in his own home to be so vulnerable in the living room.
Imagine Molly coming up to the attic to say goodnight to Ron and Harry, and Harry glancing at Ron when he hears her footsteps, trying to figure out what they had done wrong that day.
Imagine him asking George who does all the house chores, and thinking it’s a joke when George answers, “we all do.”
Imagine Ginny pestering Arthur with questions over the Daily Prophet, and Harry trying to shoot her warning looks to stop it! but then Mr. Weasley looks up and patiently answers every single one.
Imagine Bill popping in for a visit one evening and Harry being floored when Bill stops to chat with him.
Imagine Fred chasing after Harry in the yard, playfighting, but Harry actually begins to run for real fear of being hurt.
Imagine Molly burning something on the stove my accident and tossing it, imagine Harry mentioning to Ron, offhandedly, “she could’ve given that one to me, it’s what I eat at home when I mess up dinner” and not knowing why Ron is horrified.
Imagine Harry seeing what a normal, functioning family looks like, and realizing the absence of love in his own life.
“What Harry found most unusual about life at Ron’s, however, wasn’t the talking mirror or the clanging ghoul: It was the fact that everyone there seemed to like him.” – Chamber of Secrets
hrrysolo-deactivated20180117 said: your least favorite character for the thing
