fyi to you men out there
if your girlfriend fucking bans you from talking to certain people; that is a controlling relationship, it’s not healthy, that’s abusive behaviour. if she doesn’t let you have friends who are women, that isn’t right, that’s not normal. if she’s so controlling that it’s getting in the way of you enjoying a social life, that is a big problem.
i keep seeing people reblogging this and writing in the post or in the tags that one exception is when she bans you from talking to your exes, and i want to say that no that is not fucking okay either
nobody has the authority to order you to not interact with your friends, whether they’re your ex or not. that is not alright.
To clarify: your partner saying “hey, it makes me really uncomfortable when you talk to x for xyz reasons,” and having a DISCUSSION about it (even if that conversation ends with you deciding to not talk to x anymore) is fine and good and healthy.
Your partner saying “hey, it makes me really uncomfortable when you talk to x for xyz reasons, so you can’t talk to them anymore if you love me” is shitty and abusive and not okay ever.